Feeling frumpy? Craving self-expression? Becoming a mom doesn’t mean fashion has to be boring. It’s true, you’ve got other priorities raising tiny humans and keeping other areas of your life going. Investing time in how you present yourself can make a big difference in how you feel about yourself. You don’t have to break the bank either!
Make a Pinterest board or a collage that showcases the style you are trying to achieve and keep it handy like a roadmap when you are building out your wardrobe. Consider the mood and the vision you are trying to create when you’re making purchasing decisions. Think critically about the message you are trying to send with the way you present yourself.
You don’t have to go it alone on your style journey. Consider bringing a freelance stylist like The Joy of Style based in Vancouver to help you create your vision and build a shopping list. It doesn’t have to be like “What Not To Wear”, think of them as the stylish friends you wish you had. Alternately, bring a buddy who can remind you about the things you find irritating with your current wardrobe so you don’t make the same mistakes. Make sure you bring someone who will offer their honest opinion, and in a way that isn’t going to be hurtful and sap the fun. Take commission sales people’s opinions with a grain of salt, they are there to make money which is fine and valid but you want to be sure you are making the best choice for you. Ultimately, you’re the one who has to wear it and be happy at the end of the day.
Go through your closet and think about how you can mix and match what you already have on hand. Breathe some new life into your favourite sweater by pairing it with something you normally wouldn’t. Explore pattern mixing and use different accessories to modernize nostalgic favourites. Sometimes a piece could just use a few simple alterations to be more functional and look its best. Pop by a local tailor and ask their opinion on how to refresh something that’s hanging in your closet.
If you’ve got stuff that doesn’t fit the way you like or maybe wasn’t the best choice to begin with, consider hosting an exchange with other local moms to circulate your clothes to people who would love them more than you do. Find a new home for something that’s still good, but just not for you. As an added bonus, you get extra social time with other moms and the kids can play together. Everybody wins!
Consider building a wardrobe from things found in consignment or thrift shops. While current season’s trends might not be available, you can still find quality “investment pieces” that can create classic looks and enduring style. This is also an eco-friendly way to reduce waste and access designer labels that might be out of reach financially when purchased off the rack first-hand.
Explore the concept of capsule wardrobes. An overhaul doesn’t have to be an overwhelm. Acquire pieces that can easily be mixed and matched to maximize closet space and budget. Don’t be afraid to be a minimalist in this process. A few pieces that work really well are better than a bunch of things that you aren’t truly in love with.
For extra special occasions, consider local or mail order dress rental services like Rent Frock Repeat. If you don’t typically attend events that call for an expensive gown, you can reduce your costs by borrowing rather than buying. This is also a great idea if you’re planning on losing weight or expanding your family again and don’t want to buy a dress that you may not be able to use again.
Being a mom means less time for fashion, but it doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice it completely. Be intentional with the time you have to style yourself. Don’t feel like you have to chase every trend. Dress for the life you have, so that you get the most practical use from your purchases. You spend so much of your life dressing other people, that dressing yourself the way you please can be a radical act of self-care. Now go out there and rock it!
What was your last style splurge?