By Dara Squires
Amid everything else you consider when becoming a single mom, you rarely consider Mother’s Day.
For a single mom, Mother’s Day is pretty much like any other. If you’re fortunate, your children have brought home a craft from school that you’ve discovered crumpled in with their homework from Friday.
(My first Mother’s Day on my own I was presented with a lovely concoction of uncooked oatmeal, frozen berries and orange juice, courtesy of my 8-year-old’s supervision of his siblings.)
Two big considerations when you’re a single parent are time and money—you likely struggle with both. Time is especially tricky: you never have enough for yourself, and you constantly feel guilty that you’re not spending enough quality time with your children.
For a single mom to celebrate Mother’s Day, she needs a support network ready to help. If you’re one of those supporters, try these suggestions that don’t let time or money get in the way:
Instead of Breakfast in Bed
Sneaking into a single-mom’s house to prepare breakfast while she’s still sleeping is the stuff horror movies are made of. Instead try these alternatives:
Instead of Jewelry
No matter how supportive you are, you’re likely not going to visit a jewelry store for anyone other than your own wife or mother. But you can still make sure your single mom friend gets a special gift:
Instead of a Spa Day
For a single mom, the thought of a full day at the spa is tantalizing but also expensive, for you and for her if she has to pay a sitter
Instead of Taking Over All the Chores
You’re not going to be able to spend a full day at her house, doing all the chores for the day, but you can help:
There are some things that children need another supervising adult to accomplish: making non-school crafts, picking up gifts, breakfast in bed, and chores accomplished.
With a good support network and a little creativity, though, you can still celebrate a single mom thoughtfully.
Dara Squires is a single mom on the eastern edge of Canada and the very edge of sanity, juggling time and money with three kids and three jobs. Find her online @darasquires